17 dating a 20 year old
Mummy experienced the devastation of Alzheimer’s disease firsthand.Time and again she told my sisters and me that she did not want to continue living if she had advanced memory loss. Although I’ve seriously pondered it, there is no legal way for me to help my mother die.Before my dad showed signs of memory loss, Mummy had been the primary caregiver for her own mother who had some form of dementia.Then, she managed the care of her brother, a lifelong bachelor, who had probable Alzheimer’s.However, I believe individuals will eventually have more control over how and when they die, including decisions of how long to be kept alive with severe dementia. Until then, I keep praying — just in case there is a higher power. I pray every single day and some days I get so angry and resentful that she is still alive, she did not make our lives happy when she was all there so to have to quit 2 jobs to take care of her and her affairs has put a bad taste in my mouth and I just want to bury her and be done with it all.I thought when my parents died I will be able to enjoy the rest of my life instead I am the POA STUCK taking care of a woman I resent and can’t stand some days and like you my Mom is 92 in good physical health but mentally GONE, she always had mental issues, I will never understand why this woman is still alive?
When I say he was comatose, I am not saying it lightly.
My mother has almost forced this onto my dad who loves her too much to ever speak his mind around her since she is so emotionally fragile she will break down. He chokes on his food and has started to get reoccuring chest infections due to him aspirating it. I thought of this as a blessing because I see it as his way to leave this world in peace and finally be out of his misery.
I’ve questioned her before as to why they don’t consider a home (before he was placed in the rehab last week) and she breaks down and says I don’t get to ask questions since I moved out of their house 6 years ago. He always told me he never wanted to suffer when it was his time. They even asked me to pray for him to “bounce back” which, put lightly, caused me to snap.
I don’t even believe in a higher power, let alone one true God.
Even so, for the past several years I often find myself praying.
She is not emotionally prepared to answer questions to answers she should have asked herself 10 years ago when this all started. She halluncinated before, got agitated, but was basically ambulatory with help. One doctor told us the hallucinations might lessen as the brain continued degenerating. My advice is to always remember that there REALLY is someone still locked in there and understands more than we/I understood.